The INFJ needs to create a space that allows the Ni self to take shape, to shape the INFJ, to shape the world. Like the many paradoxes that make up the INFJ, this space is also paradoxical. This space is in the world but not of the world.

INFJs rarely tell you what they need.

Not because they don’t know, but because what they carry is often difficult to translate. Much of their inner world exists beneath language, beneath immediacy, beneath what can be easily pointed to or proven.

INFJs don’t stop being INFJs when they grow up.

Many of the patterns that shape an INFJ adult, like their sensitivity, depth, intuition, and inner complexity, were already present in childhood. They were simply less articulated, less protected, and often less understood.